I think not.
The Wall Street Journal did a piece on On BlackBerry Orphans, children of parents who are totally obsessed with their BlackBerry or Treos.
I’m getting really sick and tired of these “work/life balance” articles. I understand why the media does it. Filling column inches based on the random drivel of so-called experts is pretty easy. Still, there never seems to be much perspective, and what little there is comes in the form of a one line quote from someone interviewed for the story.
In this case the perspective comes from the CEO of RIM (maker of the blackberry) and a 15 year old kid who seems to understand that work equates to earned income.
One of BlackBerry’s biggest defenders, Jim Balsillie, the chairman of Research In Motion, says children should ask themselves, “Would you rather have your parents 20% not there or 100% not there?” ….
Chris DuMont, 15, of San Marino, Calif., recognizes that his father’s habit helps bring in income. “Sometimes when we’re on vacation he’ll be on” his device, Chris says. “But the whole reason we’re on vacation is because he’s working.”
Balsillie’s point is quite valid. In the “good ole days” before cell phones, the bread winner (usually the father) worked late and was never home for dinner. Now, with the availability of cell phones, email, IM and PCs, parents can leave the office at a decent hour, get their kids from school or daycare, take them to soccer practice and still get some work done at home when the kids are doing homework.
Embrace the technology folks.
All that said, we have a major cultural problem in this country with people and their phones. If you and I are having a face to face conversation, don’t answer the phone if its not important. If its your boss or your kid or your wife and you take the call thinking it might be important, but it turns out that it isn’t, tell them you are in the middle of a conversation and you’ll call them back. Don’t make the person standing in front of you wait why you idly chat on the phone.
If a group of friends are at dinner, get up from the table to take that important call. Don’t make the rest of us sit quiet or talk over you. If you can’t safely drive and talk, then send the call to voicemail. I’ve never had any issue telling a non-emergency caller that I can’t talk because I’m driving, or that I’m at dinner and I’ll call back in an hour. Use that caller-id.
Those guys in California, Europe or Japan who can’t calculate time zones and call you during dinner can wait. The project deadline won’t slip because you decided to have an uninterrupted dinner with your kids. Face it, your job isn’t that important, and people aren’t impressed.
And for that matter, get some perspective on the terms important and emergency. At my current job, I’m responsible for systems that if they go down can affect people’s ability to dial 911. That’s important. I’ll leave the table to answer the phone from the office. And if I’m at dinner and people can dial 911, I’ll tell them I’m at dinner and I’ll deal with it later.